Rise | The Key To Popularity and Friendships at School
Going back to school and seeing all your friends again can be an exciting, but also a daunting time.
Sometimes it's felt a little bit like re-entering a battlefield where everyone is desperately and ruthlessly fighting but covering it up with a smile. Often there is academic competition and a desire to win in sport, as well as vying for a seat towards the top of the social ladder. Everyone wants to be liked, to have friends, to be invited to parties. That is normal and natural. But the problem with that is: there is only one seat at the top and so to get further up we have to drag others down. With this comes compromise of character, and who we really are as daughters of God.
I know that for some people, the love of others is an obsession. In all honesty, it has become an obsession for me, the centre of my life. The only thing that matters is people liking me, at school, home and church. Every word that someone says to me is weighed up: does that mean she doesn’t like me? And the conclusion of what those few words imply affects my whole life: how much I eat, my mood, everything. It makes me completely insecure.
I think to myself, where does this leave God in my life?
He is no longer at the centre of the universe, but I am. In this moments, I forget that we don’t need the affirmation of others but we are the best version of ourselves when we know that God is all we need. He's the real judge of character. When we see Jesus face to face, it won't matter who's party I've been invited to or who I know. Those are not the things that define us before our Heavenly Father!
Psalm 139:14 tells us that we've all been made 'fearfully and wonderfully,' and Matthew 10:30 says that the very 'hairs of your head are numbered.' This shows that He made us all uniquely and individually. So trying to be anyone else or something that we're not, takes away from who he specifically made you to be.
It doesn't matter who we know or associate with, because we are each known by God.
Something I've found that is super helpful is to pray to God that he would allow me and help me to have the confidence and bravery to let go of all that angst and worry about what others think.
I choose to daily ask God to open my mind to the wonderful things about Him, and how He sees me that aren’t determined by how many friends I have.
Our society cries out for authenticity and encourages us to 'be ourselves'. I thought this was only possible if I had friends who loved me. Yet, when I ask God to give me the bravery to let go of what others think, He shows me who I am; His beloved child constantly changing in to what I long to be, more like Jesus.