Waiting and Dating

Waiting and Dating

How much are we missing today, in hopeful pursuit of what might come tomorrow? This wonderful post encourages us to live positively through seasons of singleness, with faith, trust, and patience, keeping our eyes on Jesus always. Enjoy! N x

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If we keep listening to the daily reminders of social media, life for the single Christian girl can become increasingly discouraging. 

We are continually reminded of how “in love” everyone else is with their #bae, while we sit at home watching Netflix all weekend. It's difficult to ignore Snapchat stories with cute photos of couples, otherwise known as #relationshipgoals.

Sadly, discouragement and self doubt can sometimes get the better of us. It can become overwhelming, often leading to poor choices based on our emotions. So how can we positively approach this particular period of life?

Faith, trust, and patience.

1. Faith

"Complete trust or confidence in someone, or something. A belief that what we are trusting in or confident about is capable, possible."

To follow Jesus means to have a personal relationship with God. If we have that, then we can completely rely on Him knowing He is in control of all things.

Our confidence can rest in knowing that he is “the Alpha and Omega , the first and the last, the beginning and the end”, as read in Revelation 22: 13. Psalm 46:10 says “Be still, and know that I am God.”

This verse gives us that assurance that we can be still, because God is in control, he knows and loves us. He sees our needs and the desires of our hearts. “All things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28). Be a follower of Christ and all else will fall into place. The second ingredient is trust.

2. Trust

"The firm belief in the reliability, truth, ability or strength of someone or something."

Jeremiah 29:11 says. “For I know the plans I have for you, says the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

As Christians it's important to recognise that these are more than just words, they are promises - based on God's past provision as demonstrated throughout the Bible. In trusting these promises to be true, we can find peace.

Philippians 4:6 -7 ("do not be anxious about anything [...] pray about everything") gives us God's message that we can come to Him with our worries, that He will strengthen our faith. The verse is saying: "I know you are worried, but have trust in me and you will find peace knowing I am in control and want the best for you."

The last ingredient is patience.

3. Patience

"The ability to accept and/or delay suffering or annoyance without complaining or becoming angry."

One of the hardest things to do is to wait for something that you want. We live in a world that teaches and encourages us to be anything but patient. We believe that the faster things work, the better they are. Delays are not only inconvenient, but unacceptable. With just a click of a finger we can add and delete people from our lives.

As a Christian we have to understand that God's timing is different than our timing. Our patience allows Him to know that we do trust him and that we are strong in our faith.

Psalm 27:14 “Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord.”

Although waiting can be hard, it is also a gift that the Lord gives us to use this time to develop and mature in our relationship with God. If we are constantly waiting for the future to become the present, we will miss the fruits and joys of the now. Let’s use this time to be deepening our walk with the Lord, through faith, trust, and patience. 


Hailing from the beautiful upstate New York, Chris works at a local high school, is mother to three grown kids, and wife to Steve. She loves spending time with family and friends whether it's cookouts and volleyball, or fishing in the lakes. 

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