Walking In Wisdom: Beauty Is In The Eye of The Beholder
Delighted to bring you Jemimah's post on what true, lasting beauty looks like; and how to carry this virtue in an image-obsessed culture. Enjoy! N x
CHARM IS DECEPTIVE, BEAUTY IS FLEETING BUT A WOMAN WHO FEARS THE LORD IS TO BE PRAISED" (PROVERBS 31:30)
| Charm is deceptive |
Are there times when you read something you’ve read before and realise you’ve not really read it before? Wow. This verse was like a ton of bricks for me. So often I find myself wanting to have charm, flair, something that makes me stand out from the crowd. And when someone else has it the jealousy creeps in quicker than I'd like to admit.
When I feel this I have to go back to what the Bible says - charm is deceptive. Charm creates a flawless exterior to mask the dirt beneath. And like Jesus said to the Pharisees: God looks at the heart.
I'M LEARNING THAT THE MORE I FOCUS ON MY RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM, THE MORE I PURSUE HIM, THE MORE HIS SPIRIT FILLS ME AND OVERFLOWS OUT OF ME, AND THAT’S WHAT HOLDS REAL ATTRACTION.
So often we want to be 'charming' to attract friends and particularly guys. But a guy who will honour and respect you, who has his eyes fixed on God, will not pay attention to being charmed. His head will turn once you put your eyes to the Father and abandon your life to Him - that is seriously attractive. Besides the point - getting the "inner beauty/love yourself" thing right is the key to healthy friendships and relationships.
| Beauty is fleeting |
This is probably the part of the Proverb we are most familiar with. Did you know to the UK alone the beauty industry is worth £17 billion? External beauty is a consumers' game, the more you have, the more you want.
Did you also know it's been said that there was nothing externally attractive about Jesus?
EVERYTHING ATTRACTIVE ABOUT HIM WAS BECAUSE OF THE FATHER.
Moving to London independently has taught me many things about the way I spend money. Spending hundreds a month on the latest contour kit will not fix my bitter heart. I am not saying God is against make up, but He wants us to know the depth of His love goes so far beyond this.
Every day I am learning that as I press into His love, He is singing words of love over me. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and He is the only beholder whose opinion matters. Eventually, it comes down to the fact that we are made in His image and I can’t think of an image more beautiful.
| A woman who fears the Lord
is to be praised |
Jenn Johnson, Worship Pastor from Bethel Church, California, illustrates it like this; the image of God is like a mirror, as we look to Him He reflects back on us in all His glory. To me this just how loved we are, that He would make us whole and beautiful even though we are sinners lost in the dark.
To finish, I'd like to leave you all with a some words my church leader gave me when I turned 18. She is an amazing woman of God and her words are something our entire generation needs to hear:
"You are going into a world where the mirror, and people's opinions, are the authority and the voice that is heard. They are the things that assess, give value and measure. And what they're measuring is physical appearance and performance. Insecurity lives here.
You have a different voice to listen to... the Father's voice, which has already given you value. He made you body and soul, He loves you more completely and unconditionally than you'll ever fully know this side of heaven. You are precious, beautiful.
Matthew 3:17 says "chosen and marked by my love, delight of my life”.
Jemimah is 18, living in London, and is a Musical Theatre student studying at the American Musical Theatre Academy. She has four younger sisters and a slight addiction to Jaffa cakes. Jemimah is part of the Vineyard church and passionate about seeing young girls inspired and released into everything God has designed and planned for them.